I still remember (vividly) my first attempt at Mother’s day as a parent. I rolled out of bed around 6am to get ready for church when I realized I did nothing to prepare for the day. As best I could I tried to think of something creative to do (that didn’t go anywhere at 6am). “Well, I know she likes jelly beans.” I thought. So I drove to the local store, grabbed a bag of jelly beans and a card, filled it out and taped them together. When she arrived to church a few hours later I presented my gift to her with a large smile (thinking to myself I really did something awesome – I fooled her!). NO CHANCE, I don’t think Jen talked to me the rest of the day.
Well, I have learned a lot about Mother’s Day through the years and I have made a commitment to not blow it like I did the first year. To help, I want to give us 5 reminders on how we can treat the Moms in our life on Mother’s day and any day.
Colossians 3:12 (NASB-U)
So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience;
Five Reminders For Mother’s Day!
Reminder #1 – Be Sensitive
Philippians 2:3-4 (NASB-U)
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;  do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.
Being sensitive simply means to be aware of others and what’s going on in their life. Being sensitive means we “tune in” to what is going on with others – watching their body language & facial expressions. When we observe that someone is down or “just not themselves”, we follow up with them and ask them how they are REALLY doing (not just accepting their answer of “Fine”).
Being sensitive can also be as simple as remember a prayer requests and following up with them on it. Think about this; everybody goes through a hard time at some point, take the time to pray for them, remember their prayer request and follow up.
Reminder #2 – Be Supportive
Proverbs 15:4 (NASB-U)
A soothing tongue is a tree of life, But perversion in it crushes the spirit.
Proverbs 15:4 (Msg)
Kind words heal and help; cutting words wound and maim.
A great way to show kindness to mom is by being supportive of her. We can do this best by using our words. It can be real tough getting all the responsibilities a mom has to do completed in a day.
Just recently my wife, Jen, and my oldest daughter went on a two day camping trip (they had a lot of fun together). They left me behind with my son and youngest daughter (we too had a lot of fun) and I was able to learn a little bit more about the stress that can come into a mom’s day. It starts really early with getting the sack lunch ready, then making breakfast, followed by motivating the kids to get up and get ready; then it’s out the door and off to school. After that I got to entertain my youngest son for several hours (while I am trying to be productive myself) till his lunch time & nap. When the nap came I was tired so I took a nap also. Then it’s time to go get my daughter from school, help her with homework, make dinner, keep entertaining our 3 y/o son. Give baths, read stories, brush teeth, sing songs (am I forgetting anything?)…
Single mom’s, you deserve the “Mom of the Year Award” everyday!
So guys, be supportive of mom with your words. In fact, your words to your mom should be a gift to her; words that lift her spirit up and encourage her not criticize her.
Reminder #3 – Be Sympathetic
Romans 12:15 (NASB-U)
Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.
This goes right along with the “Be Supportive” thought. To be sympathetic, simply means to listen to others with care and concern when there is stress, tragedy, pain, suffering or hard times happening in their life. Guys, I’m talking to us here, we don’t have to SOLVE all the problems; we can be sympathetic by listening to the problems and letting the moms know that we are sad with them.
Reminder #4 – Be Straightforward
Proverbs 27:6 (NASB-U)
Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.
Again, I hope this is not real hard to understand. Being straightforward simple means to be honest. Sometimes we need to help people through the blind-spots of their life and that requires confrontation. Remember this, when we confront we need to do it because we love the other person. Also, we need to tell them we love them before and after we confront. Here are a few things to remember when you have to confront (Be tactful, be honest, and be tough (on sin)). If we really love the people in our life sometimes we need to come out and be straightforward with them. It’s hard, but it’s worth it!
Reminder #5 – Be Spontaneous
I believe the number one enemy to kindness is business. Too often we are too busy to be spontaneous with our kindness. I believe in “Divine Appointments” or opportunities to connect with others in a meaningful way that was not really planned. Think about this; if you have a thought to do something good for someone, I mean to really bless them, and you have the means to do it (to pull it off); where did that thought come from? I believe that thought came from God. The Bible tells us that every good and perfect gift comes down from God above.
The next time you have an idea to bless someone, follow through with it even if you are busy. Be spontaneous and experience how much your own heart is blessed by it.
I hope you have a great Mother’s Day and I hope we all will be a little more kind to the moms in our life.