On Monday I wrote a short post about being responsible with your life and it was based partly on the Bon Jovi song “It’s My Life”.
You can read Monday’s blog post HERE. Today I will be concluding my thoughts on the topic and something I found very interesting in the song. Here are the lyrics:
“This ain’t a song for the broken-hearted
No silent prayer for the faith-departed
I ain’t gonna be just a face in the crowd
You’re gonna hear my voice
When I shout it out loud
It’s my life
It’s now or never
I ain’t gonna live forever
I just want to live while I’m alive (It’s my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Like Frankie said, “I did it my way”
I just wanna live while I’m alive
It’s my life”
So what should you do when you have a really bad day? How do you deal with those awful days that really bring us done. Again, let’s remember our FAB (Feelings Attitudes and Behavior); our FAB is a treasure that is entrusted to us from God. It is ours and no one else. The sad fact is, we allow others to have control of our FAB – we allow external circumstances to effect our FAB; when in reality, we are responsible for our own feelings, attitudes and behavior. Will we feel sad at times? Sure will. How about having a bad attitude at times? Yep! Will we want to behave like an immature teen because things didn’t “go our way”? Yes we do.
So What do we do when life stinks and our FAB is not running properly?
Well, consider what Bon Jovi said in his song…
It’s my life, It’s now or never,I ain’t gonna live forever, I just want to live while I’m alive (It’s my life), My heart is like an open highway…
Did you hear that? He talked about the heart. He sang that his heart is an “open highway” and that’s the key. Many times we get our FAB all messed up and we think that I can just go to God and pray and He will make everything OK – and that’s true to some degree. BUT, God expects us to go a little bit further with our “open highway” heart. God wants us to reach out to the “body of Christ” and share our hurts with them.
Ephesians 4:15-16 (NLT)
Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church. 16 He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.
Ephesians 4:15-16 is a great passage that explains the importance of the Body of Christ – the Church. Now, I need to make something clear, the church is NOT a build; the church is a GROUP OF PEOPLE. The head of the church is Jesus Christ and the group of people make up the Body of the church. The primary function of the Body of Christ (the church) is to assist the other parts of the Body in growth.
So, as we look at our FAB that is wounded, how can we get it healthy again? Consider the following skills:
Skills to Learn
- Talk It Out. Talk to a few people you trust about the fact that your feelings, attitude or behavior is messed up. Talking to some trusted friends (who can tell you the truth) who will help you get the junk out of your mind. Many times, we get our FAB all messed up and we don’t tell anyone about it. Instead of talking about it we walk around life with a chip on our shoulder taking our bad FAB out on everyone else. THAT’S NOT HEALTHY! Talk to a trusted friend and ask them to be honest with you. Own your part and any wrong in your own life.
- Be Responsible. It’s time to grow up and stop acting like that immature teen that doesn’t get their way. I am responsible for my feelings, attitudes and behavior and you are responsible for yours. We need to start acting (living) like adults.
- Take a Walk. Many times when my FAB is wounded or messed up I will go take a walk or exercise. While I am exercising I start praying to God about what’s on my mind and how my FAB is wounded. Doing this burns some energy, and communicates to God what I’m feeling.
- Repeat. When our FAB is hurt it will take some time to heal. Repeat the process of talking to others (don’t clam up and think you can “handle it” – you can’t). Be responsible and “take the high road”; refuse to act out like a person who is immature, behaving in an immature way doesn’t help anyone. And continue to exercise, sleep right and eat healthy while talking things out to God.
Listen, God has given you a life to live. When you are not responsible for your FAB you are not living the REAL LIFE.
Consider this promise from Jesus:
Matthew 11:28-30 (NLT)
Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”
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